Repeated comparison or replaying an upsetting message can intensify a reaction. Give yourself a pause before responding, and choose a boundary or action you can explain calmly.
Repeated comparison or replaying an upsetting message can intensify a reaction. Give yourself a pause before responding, and choose a boundary or action you can explain calmly.
From anger proceedeth delusion; from delusion confused memory; from confused memory the destruction of Reason; from destruction of Reason he perishes.
Translation · Annie Besant, 1922
A modern application
EDITORIAL REVIEW PENDING
These verses describe how fixation can develop into anger and cloud discernment. A practical interpretation is to pause before acting, without denying harm or abandoning boundaries.
An everyday example
Before replying to a hurtful message, step away and write what boundary you want to communicate.
What needs protecting, and what response would protect it without escalating harm?
